I cannot live without animals. I’ve never known a moment without a cat or dog sharing my home. I’ve never lived more than an hour from a shelter, where I’ve either volunteered or, at the very least, walked through on a regular basis to give love and affection to the furry residents. When the county and state fairs roll around, while others are heading for the rides, I’m heading to the barnyard to talk to the livestock and horses. I really love animals.

I‘ve spent a great deal of time with cats and dogs specifically and have developed a deep respect for why they behave the way they do. The age-old argument of cats vs. dogs has always baffled me. I’ve never felt the need to choose but let’s start with a closer look.

Cats vs. Dogs

Cats will use you for their base needs and then walk across your sleeping face, tracking kitty litter as they go. But the relationship with a cat is based on how you bond with them. If you leave them outside and barely give them attention, they are going to be, well cats – pooping in the neighbor’s flower bed, bringing you half-dead mice, and not wanting to be touched and cuddled unless it’s on their terms.

If you keep your cat inside, however, play with them, pet or brush them, and give them attention every day, they will be very affectionate, lay with you often, and give you slow blinks. Slow blinks are how a cat tells you they love you.

Then there are dogs. Dogs are pack animals, so they want nothing more than to be treated as part of your family. They want to have access to you constantly. If they do not, behavior issues will arise. If you leave a dog alone all day, they miss you. Like a child, they will act out by barking, digging up your yard, chewing your furniture, or peeing on your favorite rug. They are not being disobedient. They are sad, bored, lacking focus, and have too much energy with nowhere to expend it.

If you spend time with your dog, giving them the appropriate amount of exercise for their breed, taking them outside of the home to experience new things (and people) so they aren’t scared of the world, and allow your dog to be with you and your family at all times you will have the most amazing relationship that a human and animal could ever have in one lifetime.

Cats and dogs are both devoted, loving animals. They just show it in different ways. Cats tend to be more, “I’m here if you need me” and will bond the more you interact with them. Dogs are more, “I’m here like it or not” and bond instantly. One is not better than the other. I people just naturally vibe with either cats or dogs based on their personality.

So why am I explaining pet personalities in a mental health blog? Because sharing your life with a furry friend has been shown to contribute to emotional stability. And choosing the right type of pet is important. Sorry small animal, bird, reptile, and fish lovers – no time to give descriptions of all in this blog. But the remainder of this blog does apply, so keep reading. 😊

A Grounding Presence

Petting a dog, stroking a cat, or even watching fish glide through water can trigger the release of oxytocin, the hormone associated with bonding and affection. Oxytocin reduces stress levels, lowers blood pressure, and creates a general sense of calm. Spending time with pets can decrease cortisol, the hormone responsible for stress, anxiety, and tension.

Our lives are busy, and we rarely take a moment to ourselves. Pets offer solace that we otherwise might not experience. Their presence is grounding – a gentle reminder to live in the moment.

• Stress Reduction: Numerous studies show that interacting with pets, especially dogs and cats, can lower anxiety and promote relaxation. The repetitive motion of petting, the soothing sounds of purring, or even the playful antics of a rabbit or guinea pig can distract from rumination and bring a sense of peace.

• Mindfulness and Routine: Pets encourage routines – feeding, walking, grooming – that foster mindfulness and structure. These daily acts create moments to pause, breathe, and reconnect with ourselves. The simple act of caring for another being can draw us out of cycles of anxious thought and into purposeful action.

• Emotional Regulation: For those who struggle with intense emotions, pets offer a nonjudgmental presence. Whether feeling sadness, anger, or fear, an animal’s quiet companionship can provide comfort and perspective. Their consistent affection teaches us to be gentle with ourselves.

Making a Social Connection

Loneliness has increasingly been recognized as a public health crisis. Social isolation can worsen symptoms of depression and anxiety, particularly among older adults, singles, or those living far from family. Here, the role of pets is profound:

• Companionship: Pets fill a void that words often cannot. They are best friends, always ready to listen and never critical. This unwavering companionship provides a sense of belonging and acceptance.

• Social Facilitation: Walking a dog, taking a cat to the vet, or even sharing pet photos online can spark conversations and foster new friendships. Pets can act as social catalysts, connecting people who might otherwise remain isolated.

• Purpose and Responsibility: Caring for a pet instills a sense of purpose. Knowing that another living being depends on us for food, shelter, and comfort can inspire resilience and self-worth.

Therapeutic Bonds

Beyond everyday companionship, pets are increasingly recognized for their therapeutic potential. Animal-assisted therapy and emotional support animals are now integral aspects of mental health care. It’s important to note here that trained therapy animals are working animals. They have important jobs that should never be interrupted. It’s never okay to approach, touch, or talk to a therapy animal without the permission of their handler.

• Animal-Assisted Therapy: Trained therapy animals visit hospitals, nursing homes, and counseling centers, providing comfort and encouragement. Their presence can reduce pain, elevate mood, and even accelerate recovery for patients coping with trauma or illness.

• Support for Mental Illness: Emotional support animals (ESAs) are recognized for their role in helping individuals manage depression, anxiety, PTSD, and other mental health challenges. The consistent, calming effect of a support animal can make a tangible difference in daily life.

• Child Development: For children, growing up with pets teaches empathy, patience, and responsibility. In families where a child faces emotional or developmental challenges, a pet can be a crucial ally, offering stability and unconditional love.

The Joy Factor

There is a reason that pet fail videos are so popular on YouTube and TikTok. I’m a victim to that dark rabbit hole myself. My dog Bella gives me smile after smile on a daily basis. Whether it’s the zoomies she gets late in the day or the way she lays on her back with all four feet in the air, staring at me with an upside-down happy face, I’m constantly giggling at her silliness. My two cats chase each other, faster than their feet can carry them, sliding in circles on our smooth flooring putting on a show when they are feeling extra spicey. One of them is 16, so we consider this a real treat when she garners the energy.  

It’s impossible to underestimate the pure joy pets bring into our lives. Their quirky personalities, boundless enthusiasm, and unwavering loyalty add laughter and meaning to even the smallest of moments.

Pets accept us as we are, on our best days and our worst. Their affection is not dependent on achievement or status but is freely given, helping us cultivate self-love and acceptance.

The excitement a pet shows when you come home, the joy of learning a new trick together, or the gentle nuzzle at the end of a hard day – all become small victories, moments to savor and celebrate.

A Gift of Companionship

The bond between humans and their pets transcends mere companionship, offering profound emotional, psychological, and even physical benefits. They teach us empathy, patience, and the importance of living in the moment. As we care for them, they, in turn, nurture our souls, fostering resilience and joy.

Embracing the presence of a pet in our lives not only enhances our well-being but also enriches our journey, reminding us of the simple yet profound impact of love and connection.

As we continue to learn more about the powerful link between animals and emotional health, one thing remains clear: the healing presence of a pet is a gift.

And if there is one thing that cats and dogs can agree on it’s that gift boxes are awesome. Though you should check to make sure the cat isn’t hiding inside before the dog starts ripping the box to shreds. Well, I tried.